Sunday, August 26, 2012
Back in my mid teens I remember my 'Uncle Johnny', who was a laborer for one of the local big car manufacturer's (I wanna say Ford) up there in Twinsburg, just pitchin' a bitch about how our country was goin down the tubes. This would have been back in the late 70's. I unfortunately wasn't interested in 'all that'. Although unlike some, I didn't find it bothersome that he would take up this gripe.
The thing of it is people don't wanna be bothered by the truth. I think denial is a societal phenomenon here in America especially. We appear to be so comfortable even in the midst of recession and bailouts. It's amazing what we can scan, glimpse, take in and then move right on to what apps are hot for our smartphones, what we're gonna do for Labor Day/any upcoming holiday, making a list of 'To Do' tasks for around the house, where we're going for those school supplies...and on, and on, and on it goes.
I remember learning about something called 'comfort zones'. This from Wikipedia on comfort zones; "A comfort zone is a type of mental conditioning that causes a person to create and operate mental boundaries. Such boundaries create an unfounded sense of security. Like inertia, a person who has established a comfort zone in a particular axis of his or her life, will tend to stay within that zone without stepping outside of it. To step outside a comfort zone, a person must experiment with new and different behaviours, and then experience the new and different responses that then occur within their environment."
So like a rubber band, we take in something new- our comfort zones get stretched outside of their boundaries, and then 10 to 15 minutes later (or less) it snaps right back!! We think "We'll get back to it". But that's where our comfort zones and denial (go ahead, read it again at the top there) come to the rescue. The rescue...he he. Ahhh....rescue, ya for those with power and greed as their North Star.
I lived for many, many years thinking people could be no more harmful in their intentions than as was I. That's called 'projection' I believe. And then I could no longer deny the recklessness of human beings who don't or can't live from their hearts. They cause and inflict a lot of damage, more often in the name of good. They can cause a great deal of chaos.
When the collective recklessness and irresponsibility of those whom I had drawn into my life (thanks to an abusive and dysfunctional childhood where I honestly hadn't learned what 'normal' should be, or that I certainly was deserving of it) came to a head - it became REEEEAAAALLLY messy (that I'll get to on my other blog www.itstartedinoxnard.blogspot.com). It was at that point that I started questioning some of the things my Uncle Johnny had fussed over and carried on about. That usually doesn't make you too popular....when you go upsettin people's denial and comfort zones....but here it goes....
I want to introduce you to a gentleman who really impressed me with his credentials/credibility, intelligence, articulation and humility. His name is G. Edward Griffin and there are two sites where I will direct you to his work. Obviously you can simply Google his name and go from there too. His site: Freedom Force International
First watch the video introduction, it's right under their logo at the top, click there. Next after reading their 'Welcome' you'll be guided towards the bottom of that page where there'll be a box that instructs a first-time visitor to 'click here' for the essays. That will take you to the 'Issues' page, read it and you'll once again be down at the bottom where you will find the series of articles he's written entitled "The Future Is Calling" available in PDF;
Part 1: The Chasm
Part 2: Secret Organizations and Hidden Agendas
Part 3: Days of Infamy
Part 4: The War on Terrorism
The fifth part "An Idea Whose Hour Has Come" is in video/film form, you can use his link right there beneath the previous 4 parts or You Tube it (and that's the second site where I would direct you for much on him).
But absolutely - do not put this off, and remember as you educate yourself you will be working in the face of our human inclination to stay in homeostasis, and adhere to denial (go ahead, read it again up there) as well as struggle to stay close to that comfort zone you've lived within for oh so many years now.
Mr. Griffin is right, your future is calling, and if we remain in homeostasis, denial, our comfort zones - it's not a pretty one. We have a choice.
Saturday, August 25, 2012
I came across these comments from the following post; http://www.corrections.com/news/article/30787-it-it-saves-one-child
Sherika61 on 07/05/2012:
Muffin on 07/02/2012:
|If It Saves One Child|
|By Shelly Stow|
Please do visit and read, including ALL thoughtful comments.
Sherika61 on 07/05/2012:
AWESOME article. Here is a letter I wish would be sent to anyone and everyone maybe if they could see Life through the eyes of an Offenders child they might get it. Please feel free to copy and paste and send it to all!!!! ( This was written after listening to kids of all ages tell me what their lives are like now!) The Forgotten Children (Life as a Child of a Sex Offender) I would like to take the time to tell you what it is like to be a child of a Sex Offender. I wake up every day wondering how many signs may be on our front lawn. How many people are going to ride by our house and point and take pictures? How many people are going to watch every move we make today? How many times are people going to call the police because my parent has done something, which for an average person would be normal but because they know a Sex Offender lives here that activity with their child looks suspicious? How many more birthdays will be with just family because parents will not let their kids come to my party. How many parties will I not be invited to? How many more games will my parent not be allowed to watch me play? How many field trips will I not attend because it is too hard to listen to the whispers of the parents? Are we gonna have to move again because my parent cannot find a job to pay for rent? Are we gonna have to stay in the car again; because it is hard to find a place to live, because our government has decided we are Prohibited to live in Low Income Housing???? How many YEARS am I gonna have to watch my parent cry with frustration because they can’t provide even the simplest life for our family. Some kids can’t even have any contact with their parent!! Why is it everyone wants to Protect children but NO ONE thinks about me or kids in the same situation as me?? Can anyone answer that question??? Why do we not count? I was always taught to do the right thing and if you didn’t you would have to pay for it. I did not know that meant you would pay for the rest of your life. I did not know that people would treat you as an outcast forever!!!! The Bible says; you should forgive. The Constitution (which I learned in school) says we have rights, but it seems to me if your parent is a Sex Offender the Constitution DOES NOT APPLY. Otherwise how could they make laws that are Retroactive? Laws that continue punishing the person (and their family) forever. Prohibit us from living somewhere or prohibit us from free travel. Is the Constitution obsolete now??? I know everyone says these are not laws but civil regulations but in my mind regulations are the same thing as a law. They tell you what you can or can’t do and if you DO NOT follow them, you go back to prison!!! So, what is the difference between laws and regulations? I have also noticed that the same laws that punish my parent do not always punish others who have committed the same crime. Is that because they are public figures( Professional Athletes, Government Officials, sons of Well Known Advocates, or people who have tons of money) and society is ok with them committing the crimes????? (I watch the news, read newspapers and research stuff on the internet) This affects my life everyday so I must pay attention. I am hoping someday before it is too late that I too can have a normal life. Not always be a VICTIM of societies unfounded FEAR of all people labeled a Sex Offender. They are not all MONSTERS!!!!! Maybe if people looked into their own lives they would realize they too could be considered a Sex Offender for things they have done. Maybe even if these laws were in affect a long time ago you or someone in your family could be one!!! I cannot give you my real name as I fear it would put us in more danger, so I will give you a name for the life I wish I had. Thank You for listening, Living Free
Muffin on 07/02/2012:
[...Sic] I am crying as I read this. I was one of those children whose dad was on the registry, and I can't even begin to tell the torment we suffered, and, as this is a positive article, I won't. All I could think about, other than my own experiences, was those two little boys in Washington State whose dad (Gary Blanton) was murdered by some vigilante because he was on the registry. Now those children will grow up with no father. At least I had my dad with me, and he loved us so much, and the people who felt we all deserved to suffer and even die were never as damaging as having my father's and my mother's love were redeeming. Thank you for printing this article.
I would like to thank Ms. Stow, 'Sherika61' and 'Muffin' for their contributions. I want rightfully to live as the human being that I am. My children will never know what they lost, what was taken from them. One day when I feel I'm more 'free' to do so, I will write and blog on such things. ...Until I am able to share my children's story, and my story.....