Showing posts with label unintended consequences. Show all posts
Showing posts with label unintended consequences. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Cease Using the LABEL, Name Calling is Destructive!

                


              

SEX OFFENDER: A LABEL, NOT A DEFINITION

Several years ago now the term 'sex offender' cropped up. When it did, something happened. A LABEL was constructed for those having been convicted OF A sex offense. Now they are one in the same. Not a clinical label, in it's form as it has come to be used, it is actually 'name calling'. Name calling under the premise that it is a definition of a type of person or group of people.

Due to media attention, 'Sex Offender' became synonymous to the high profile crimes committed, perpetrated by the most deviant and dangerous, with extremely heinous and hideous outcomes; abduction, sexual violation, murder. With great inertia and momentum from the sympathy naturally garnered of the public, we now have a very despised and loathed person, A 'sex offender'. And a group of people 'sex offenders', reduced to pariahs, monsters, to be feared and more over, necessary to be destroyed! 

There is a wrong doing here. We do not justify one wrong with another. Those convicted OF sex offenses are not one in the same as the deviant, criminally dangerous identity which the label now associates. In fact, depending on the state, there are OVER 200 violations and accompanied penal codes that will attribute to a sex offense for an individual. The involving of abduction, sexual violation and murder occur at a fraction of less than 1%. As opposed to the one concentrated, feared, archetypal, sexually driven monster, lurking in the shadows or behind shrubbery to abduct, molest, rape and kill our children, voluminous research and studies repeatedly report the same consistent findings and truths; 'Sex offender's' (those convicted OF sex offenses) are not a homogeneous group of individuals. They come from different socioeconomic levels, races, creeds, genders, age groups. These are everyday people in society. Factually over 90+% are first time offenders (no previous criminal convictions) and again, at a 90+% rate, they do not re-commit another sex offense. It is factually so; the overwhelming number of people which have been designated as 'sex offenders' are law-abiding members of society.

The ridiculous high recidivism rates we see reported by people, and in the news (those who should be accountable for accuracy, but sadly are not) are skewed; they include non-sex offenses in re-offense rates, and/or spread the high percentage of re-offense figures associated to those types of sex offenses with high recidivism, across the board on to the law abiding numbers of people having sex offense convictions. In reality the majority of people who carry the branding 'sex offender', are first-time offenders; having no previous criminal convictions, and do not commit another sex offense; specific recidivism. These are law abiding people!

So 'sex offender' in fact is not a definition for a person or group of people, other than having a sex offense conviction as the common thread. 'Sex offender' has come to be a label, for what it has come to be known as or associated with. It is nothing more than bigotry. To use the words 'sex offender' is unequivocally name calling and 'othering' (a term of Sociology): Other labels or name calling we now acknowledge as such (much to the improvement of humanity!); spic, kike, nigger, retard. Such slights are recognized for the ignorance and cruelty surrounding their use. So is it in referring to an individual as A 'sex offender'. It seeks to force a definition in place of acknowledging the qualities of a human being in that person. It serves to dehumanize; justifying excessive and relentless hatred and retaliation. Because, it is a form of bigotry. It is not acceptable. It is flat out WRONG.

Labeled 'sex offender' one is doomed to re-live payment for the actions and the crimes of the incredibly small percentage by comparison to the lot, of the truly sick, troubled and dangerous; those that by their make-up ARE highly inclined or destined to re-commit sex offenses / crimes. The desire for justice and retaliation of the criminally dangerous individuals perpetrating sex offenses has driven society to craft equally harmful and sick, destructive -in fact unconstitutional laws. Besides the ludicrous aspect of setting up unconstitutional laws, people are persuaded to believe safety can be achieved by such means! We are victimizing ourselves by allowing this. And for the overwhelming number of law-abiding individuals called 'sex offender', we are delusional in taking away their inalienable rights! This effectively and profoundly destroys any remote possibility to live within society, not to mention the extended perpetration and impact on their family members, ...and their children! People filled with hatred and ignorance to define and label a person as A 'sex offender' are justifying their own perpetration's. Two wrongs NEVER equal a right. Never.


Please, judgment or hatred for certain individuals or group of people is no justification for bigotry and cruelty. Have your opinions, but don't delude yourself. Hatred and bigotry are not acceptable rationalizations to banish a populous of human beings. So whether or not you can accept or even like a person convicted OF a sex offense, stop the bigotry, never refer to another human being AS A Sex Offender, thereby removing them of the dignity to be a fellow human being, a fellow citizen. You don't have to like someone to still treat them humanely.




This isn't about keeping society and children safe, there's a way to go about that. Even if this lunacy could be construed as curative / a 'cure', the ol' adage stands true "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure"Education is the most powerful, useful tool to yield results and constructive consequences for our efforts.

Please take another 15 minutes or so to read this article. Particularly concerning Patty Wetterling as a parent of an abducted child, Jacob Wetterling. A woman dealing with the actuality of a horror and nightmare we can only but fathom. This woman does not permit emotions nor selfishness of dollar signs to cloud the best interest of all impacted in this matter. A matter that does affect us ALL as a society.

Saturday, August 25, 2012

Living Free

I came across these comments from the following post; http://www.corrections.com/news/article/30787-it-it-saves-one-child
If It Saves One Child
By Shelly Stow
Published: 07/02/2012

Please do visit and read, including ALL thoughtful comments.

Sherika61 on 07/05/2012:
AWESOME article. Here is a letter I wish would be sent to anyone and everyone maybe if they could see Life through the eyes of an Offenders child they might get it. Please feel free to copy and paste and send it to all!!!! ( This was written after listening to kids of all ages tell me what their lives are like now!) The Forgotten Children (Life as a Child of a Sex Offender) I would like to take the time to tell you what it is like to be a child of a Sex Offender. I wake up every day wondering how many signs may be on our front lawn. How many people are going to ride by our house and point and take pictures? How many people are going to watch every move we make today? How many times are people going to call the police because my parent has done something, which for an average person would be normal but because they know a Sex Offender lives here that activity with their child looks suspicious? How many more birthdays will be with just family because parents will not let their kids come to my party. How many parties will I not be invited to? How many more games will my parent not be allowed to watch me play? How many field trips will I not attend because it is too hard to listen to the whispers of the parents? Are we gonna have to move again because my parent cannot find a job to pay for rent? Are we gonna have to stay in the car again; because it is hard to find a place to live, because our government has decided we are Prohibited to live in Low Income Housing???? How many YEARS am I gonna have to watch my parent cry with frustration because they can’t provide even the simplest life for our family. Some kids can’t even have any contact with their parent!! Why is it everyone wants to Protect children but NO ONE thinks about me or kids in the same situation as me?? Can anyone answer that question??? Why do we not count? I was always taught to do the right thing and if you didn’t you would have to pay for it. I did not know that meant you would pay for the rest of your life. I did not know that people would treat you as an outcast forever!!!! The Bible says; you should forgive. The Constitution (which I learned in school) says we have rights, but it seems to me if your parent is a Sex Offender the Constitution DOES NOT APPLY. Otherwise how could they make laws that are Retroactive? Laws that continue punishing the person (and their family) forever. Prohibit us from living somewhere or prohibit us from free travel. Is the Constitution obsolete now??? I know everyone says these are not laws but civil regulations but in my mind regulations are the same thing as a law. They tell you what you can or can’t do and if you DO NOT follow them, you go back to prison!!! So, what is the difference between laws and regulations? I have also noticed that the same laws that punish my parent do not always punish others who have committed the same crime. Is that because they are public figures( Professional Athletes, Government Officials, sons of Well Known Advocates, or people who have tons of money) and society is ok with them committing the crimes????? (I watch the news, read newspapers and research stuff on the internet) This affects my life everyday so I must pay attention. I am hoping someday before it is too late that I too can have a normal life. Not always be a VICTIM of societies unfounded FEAR of all people labeled a Sex Offender. They are not all MONSTERS!!!!! Maybe if people looked into their own lives they would realize they too could be considered a Sex Offender for things they have done. Maybe even if these laws were in affect a long time ago you or someone in your family could be one!!! I cannot give you my real name as I fear it would put us in more danger, so I will give you a name for the life I wish I had. Thank You for listening, Living Free

Muffin on 07/02/2012:
[...Sic] I am crying as I read this. I was one of those children whose dad was on the registry, and I can't even begin to tell the torment we suffered, and, as this is a positive article, I won't. All I could think about, other than my own experiences, was those two little boys in Washington State whose dad (Gary Blanton) was murdered by some vigilante because he was on the registry. Now those children will grow up with no father. At least I had my dad with me, and he loved us so much, and the people who felt we all deserved to suffer and even die were never as damaging as having my father's and my mother's love were redeeming. Thank you for printing this article.


I would like to thank Ms. Stow, 'Sherika61' and 'Muffin' for their contributions. I want rightfully to live as the human being that I am. My children will never know what they lost, what was taken from them. One day when I feel I'm more 'free' to do so, I will write and blog on such things.  ...Until I am able to share my children's story, and my story.....